My ex has borderline ?

[Kate1234]

Hi

I think my boyfriend (ex boyfriend actually now ) has some kind of mental illness .

He used to be Very shy ,Very closed , he was Growing up in the family where he didn't get enough warmth . His mother never took enough care of him . His parents had forgotten about his birthday and so long . I was in relationship with him for 6 months and then he broke up with me on my 18 birthday party in front of everybody .

That wasn't him completly . He used to take care of me ,he never been such an ass . I didn't know what I should been doing . I asked him if I done something wrong . He told me it isn't about that . He was acting like ha had no feelings ,he didn't smile completly nothing like he Have one -faced mask on . He was in very bad condition after the brake up . When his mom took him to the psychologist he runaway and said he can handle his problems by his own . After week he came to talk to me about the brake up . He said this will be better for me not to be with him . After that he started to text me in the middle of the night if I think he might me mental sick . I didn't know what I should be doing . I asked him if he was sure of the decision of brake up and he said he wasn't and he isn't yet.  After 2 weeks he came back when I told him that I am completly confused and I still love him I told him he can't treat me like a ___ and then expect me to be with him in every moment . Everything was fine but when I asked him if he would like to go to mountains with me he completly backed off . He started to cry and have really bad mood . He never wanted to meet my friends never go anywhere with me I felt like he was scared to . When after few days I asked him what is wrong , what happened he got this mask again . His friends are also not helpful they used to manipulate him and say things about me . What I should been doing now ? Last time when we spoke he said to me some awful things because I told him that he should be treated by them with more respect . He thinks I want to ruin his life I don't know why . Maybe they want him to think so. . Please help me

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Everything was fine but when I asked him if he would like to go to mountains with me he completly backed off . He started to cry and have really bad mood .

What I should been doing now ? Last time when we spoke he said to me some awful things because I told him that he should be treated by them with more respect.

He thinks I want to ruin his life I don't know why . Maybe they want him to think so. . Please help me

Can you tell us more about the relationship?  Age, how long together, did you live together/together often, etc.