If you let this sabotage work even once then you can expect this to happen every time.
I agree 100%, same thing happened with me and after I stood firm the attacks on my time are less frequent.
And you wouldn't be doing D7 any favors. Because you'd be teaching BPDex that sticking the poor kid in the middle and making her not look forward to time with you works. So that is what she'll do.
Exactly! I believe that it would be teaching your daughter that laying guilt trips is a way to get what she wants.
Always the question in the back of your mind should be what is in the best interest of your daughter. More time with mom (who she already lives with and sees daily) and her family? Or vacation with her dad (who she doesn't live with)? I say dad smiley
Very good advice.
School starts soon for D7, so switching time is not an option, although I'd be up for it. My accommodations will always be one way: I lose parenting time without makeup time. I know it is unrealistic to expect to horse-trade in all cases, and unhealthy to account for every minute. But then there are boundaries that keep me sane and necessary time to simply have time to be a dad.
Its the exact same thing with me there is no make up time if I miss my time with my daughter, ex wont allow it. Im about to go back to court to try and change that. In the beginning I was very flexible with my ex and it always cost me my time, now I try and get every minute of my time because if I give my ex an inch she takes a mile or 10.
Time with the non primary parent is extremely important and valuable to the child and parent in my opinion, it shouldn't be messed with unless its a emergency.
I have to tell myself that D is with her Mom the grand majority of the time. I still have to un-brainwash myself so I can be a Dad again.
Its hard to get out of the F.O.G while dealing with this disorder, I try to think of whats best for my daughter. It usually clears the FOG quickly. I think its the lowest tactic to use when kids are brought in as tools by the BPD/NPD exs :'(