Hello, cnorgaard &
I'm so sorry for how stressful and painful things are for you, and those of us on the Staying Board can certainly understand how hard it is to love someone with BPD or BPD traits... .We commiserate with you, friend
Something that can help you a lot with dealing with your partner--whether you decide to stay and work it out, or eventually leave the relationship--is to check out all of the links to the right-hand side of this page.
Before you can make anything better, you must stop making it worse and
The Lessons will give you a very good overview and idea of just what you are dealing with, how your partner's mind works, and how you can communicate in ways that make things easier for both of you... .
How long have you two been together? Are you married? Have any children? What exactly is happening that makes things so hard for you to deal with? Does she have any idea that she has some sort of problem and might need help?
Please read all you can on this site, and tell us more of your story and ask your questions... .We're here to help, cnorgaard
