I said "how did that make you feel when she told you stories of dad?" and she responded that she is very confused and I said well maybe you can ask mom to explain it to her when she sees her again and she said "ya but she gets mad at me, thats why Im asking you"
How about... .
Well, it is hard to know why someone does something sometimes isn't it? That does sound confusing? I am confused as well, I can't understand why she does that?  :)o you suppose mom knows why? (Mom will likely share words that conflict with behaviors often... .maybe good idea to plant the seed that sometimes we are confused... .because the person we are trying to make sense of... .is confused. This
should be confusing to her.)
Then maybe also follow by telling her it is ok to try to understand... .however... .sometimes things are just confusing... .and that is ok too... .ok for her, for mom, and you. (Maybe that will help communicate there is nothing to fix... .and if she feels confused... .she wont judge herself?)