Check out Secure Teen
I installed that one, it seems to have most things covered.
There may be a connection between his interest in porn and despising girls... .?
probably so and the fact that his mom isn't involved and he has said many times that his mom " doesn't want me " and it didn't help when I got involved with my daughters mom. It was just another negative female figure in his life that seemed to reinforce that females are bad and bring pain and sadness. I constantly try to get him to see that its not a gender thing that its not that girls are bad or boys are bad but peoples behavior is what can be hurtful.
I felt out of my depth with any conversation about sex and girls with S14. I enrolled S14 in a class at a local church last year. They have a non-secular but values based class called Our Whole Lives (OWL) that teaches kids everything about sexuality. And I mean everything. I think the churches that use this curriculum are United Church of Christ, although again -- no religion in the curriculum if you aren't about that.
Good idea I will look into that, I already had the " talk " with him and tried to get him to see sex from my point of view. I'm very old fashioned and hold sex as something very important and meaningful not like changing a shirt like a lot of kids see sex these days.
If you get an app to prevent S11 from looking at porn, he will find a way. He's learning from peers and online what is normal, so he needs you to guide him through this, so he knows what his choices mean long term.
Yeah I'm pretty sure he will, He is a lot like me when I was at that age. There was no wall tall enough to keep me from getting what I wanted good or bad unfortunately. I had to learn the hard way, I hope my son has more sense then I did
My hope in putting a app on his phone is to slow him down a bit until I get a handle on things