Hi Hcmpguy,
Welcome. It sounds like things have gotten pretty difficult for you and your family. It is very hard to be in the situation you describe. I know because my partner is also both Bipolar and BPD.
Would you feel okay to tell us a little more about what's going on currently? Is she in crisis? Is that how she recently got the BPD diagnosis? Do you have kids? If you share a little more, we might be able to provide some more specific feedback.
Everyone who introduces themselves here has
The Lessons on the right hand side of the page pointed to them.
This is a cut and paste right from the first lesson.
For a long time you've been living with this sense of uneasiness and uncertainty, never knowing when a good day or moment would go suddenly and horribly wrong. That feeling of dread was a constant part of your life, and yet the blame for the problems were always cast onto you. Our goal is to help you obtain the knowledge to understand the chaos you've been living in and to recognize the various phases and symptoms your loved one will exhibit
.
If you are anything like me, that pretty much sums it up doesn't it? Things would be fine and then suddenly they would be horrible and I would always be blamed and I never could understand it. We would have these long bizarre arguments that made very little sense. I understand when you say you feel like you are losing your sanity.
This site can help. The Lessons can help. There is order to this disorder. It can be made sense of. It won't be easy. And it will take time.
What I found to be true for me, is coming here, reading and posting, things slowly got better for me. I wouldn't still be here if they didn't.
so welcome, feel free to join in.
'ducks
