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[aleeinATX]

Hi,

My partner of nearly 3 years definitely exhibits BPD.  I love her very much and would like to propose to her in a few weeks.  Already bought the ring.  She is an incredible person, Mother, and partner- except during those episodes.  They currently happen around every 4-6 weeks.  She really tries to control them, but man when they do, it all falls apart.  I really want this to work and am just trying to find out everything I can.  I can't always predict the triggers so sometimes "miss" and then all hell breaks loose.  I'm here at the suggestion of her Mom, who is wonderful and understands what I am facing. I'm looking forward to interacting with others in this situation.

Thank you,

Angela

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[babyducks]

Hi AleeinATX,

Welcome to the family.   

You've come to a supportive, helpful online community with a group of people who understand exactly what it is you are experiencing.   

When some one new joins us we always point out The Lessons that run down the right hand side of the page.  They are the place to start.

There are some tools and skills that make interacting with a pwBPD (person with BPD) easier and less conflict driven especially in moments of emotional dsyregulation.   You will find us talking a lot about validation and boundaries.   You will also notice we spend a lot of time talking about the things we can change, us and our understanding.   The focus here is on making healthy, calm and centered decisions based on our values.

I have found a great deal of support here, and can truly say my relationship is much better because I regularly come here, read, post and learn.

feel free to dive right into a thread or ask any questions that are on your mind.

'ducks