Boyfriend with BPD?

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years now on and off, we have lived together in his home many times for brief periods until he kicks me out literally leaving me walking down the street homeless usually when I've done something to upset him that I hadn't even been aware was a major issue until he blows up. About a year ago he started pushing and shoving me and during our latest fight he told me I made him want to beat me senseless and he had to get away from me before I put him in jail. The latest fight came out of nowhere when I questioned whether he had seen a necklace of mine that was missing. He exploded after helping me look for a few minutes calling me horrible names and telling me I did nothing but cause him grief and drama and punching holes in the walls and shoving me when I tried to reach out to calm him. I've never seen him so upset. He was out of his mind screaming and made me leave. A few hours later I got a text saying that he had found my necklace and that I was lazy and had not even looked. I ended up texting back telling him that I was sorry. During those couple hours waiting for him to respond I discovered that he had been texting and messaging other women a few months back and basically cheating. He responded by telling me he was over it and to get my things out of his house. I didn't respond. Today he is accusing me of taking money from him and says he is now not going to return my necklace. Did I mention in the middle of his rage he threw my jewelry out in the front yard and smashed my phone. My head is spinning. This had been the longest stretch of "good" time we have had. It lasted six weeks and he was different than he had ever been. It was almost scary how kind and loving he was being and I almost believed we might be making progress. He says it's over and I'm so pathetic all I want is him to love me. I used to be a strong independent woman now I'm scared to make a move. I don't know how to respond to his texts or getting my things. I don't know how much more pain my heart can take let alone process the fact that he's been cheating. I'm broken. I decided to go looking for answers online and interestingly enough came across BPD and remembered that last year in the middle of one of our breaks he had sent me a email with a link to BPD asking me to read it and take a look as he thought the issues we had stemming from me might be from BPD. But after finally reading up on it the description perfectly fits him. What do I do?



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