Watching my TeenSon follow the BPD Parent's Chaotic example

[AnnaChase3]

Heartbreaking... .to have our sweet son know that his cruel words and violent anger is NOT the right way to behave... .However; the emotional abuse cycle continues ... .As BPD Parent makes ridiculous statement when he is angry with our son such as ... ."Go ahead do us all a favor and just jump off a bridge////" ALL because our son wasn't behaving as he should... .Angry outburts and destruction of his walls by punching gaping holes in them.  The nasty words he said and names he called both His Dad and myself AND his 3 sisters was absolutely like listening to my blaming critical BPD HUSBAND! MArried nearly 20 years... .How in the world can I get this enabling I seem to naturally do so pathetically well.  I am always trying to think one step and anticipate any friction or requests BPD hubs may have to atleast have a less destructive and heartbreaking tantrum for some inconsequential and ill percieved perception he may have.