STBX wants to be a parenting "TEAM"

[Tansy]

I'm at a loss.

STBX moved out 8 months ago and has seen the kids (S17 and S13) for a total of less than 18 hours since, mostly because they didn't want to visit, but STBX didn't push too hard to see them, either.

Now the divorce has gotten to the point that the court has imposed a visitation schedule.  The kids go separately for a few hours on Saturday afternoons.  We are required to have a 15 minute phone conversation once a week.

Now STBX is pissed because "we have to parent as a team".  We haven't parented as a team in more than 5 years, it was one of the biggest issues in our marriage. Also upset not to be part of the kids' everyday life.  STBX just doesn't understand that in the past 8 months the kids have had a choice about who to have involved in their life, and they have exercised it.

And this just drags on... .

[Turkish]

So he only gets the kids a few hours per week, and a phone conversation, but you are responsible close to 100% for taking care of them. Yet it's a huge burden that he has to do... .anything like, communicate? He going Waif is understandably frustrating to say the least.

How are the kids handling it?

[Tansy]

Kids are angry and resentful, and don't want to visit or even talk on the phone.

I guess I wasn't clear in my first post.  It was kind of a pointless rant.  I am the one that finds the requirement to communicate difficult.  Hearing things like "we have to parent as a team" from someone who has been completely out of the picture for so long makes me crazy.

There's a team, STBX just isn't on it.  Me and the kids are doing just fine, better than before actually.