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« on: September 25, 2015, 02:56:10 PM »

Hello,

I am also new to this forum. My husband has BPD. We just learnt and I have been reading up on it and how to cope (stop walking on eggshells) but I am faced wit this struggle of not wanting to go through this pain and yet not leaving him at this bad phase in his life. Hoping to see how everybody else with similar dilemma make their decisions. This is HARD, hoping to learn a thing or two in coping with the stress.
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« Reply #1 on: September 25, 2015, 04:26:02 PM »

Hello and welcome!

I'm sorry you have found yourself in this situation. I'm sure his behaviors have been hurtful, bizarre, frustrating and stressful. But, you are not alone. We all have family member or spouses wBPD, and while you can never take the BPD away... .there IS hope Smiling (click to insert in post)

The very very first thing to do if you haven't already done so is check out the lessons on this forum. The biggest thing in my opinion is learning to effectively communicate. If we can do that... .a whole lot of the behaviors reduce significantly.

Is he in therapy now? Are you?

Where do you want to go with this relationship? Are you feeling about it?
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« Reply #2 on: September 25, 2015, 07:59:02 PM »

Thanks coldethyl. If I was selfish I would just end this but it's hard to do when you care.

I will explore the site more and think more about the questions you have asked.
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« Reply #3 on: September 26, 2015, 07:23:04 AM »

Welcome

Hi hopeful2015,

You have come to a website full of resources and members that are here to support and encourage you.   We understand the situation you find yourself in.   We have been in your shoes.

ColdEthyl mentioned the Lessons,  the links to them are in the box to the right. >> >> >>

While my relationship has gone through some difficult times.  I have to say the skills and tools I learned here has taken much of the stress out of my relationship.   What I can understand I can either change or react to appropriately.   

I look forward to seeing you around the forums.

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« Reply #4 on: September 26, 2015, 09:29:57 AM »

Welcome, Hopeful2015!

I just joined here a few days ago myself with the exact same situation as you - recently diagnosed husband with BPD. I've known a lot about the disorder for a long time since I worked in Mental Health and had many BPD clients, but being in a relationship with a BPD person is VERY different. Hopefully we can help each other find our way.
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