Thanks for responding, Ceruleanblue. Yes, I have read all the books and reread them from time to time. I have gone through the lessons and articles here multiple times as well. He is so high functioning! And maybe it is more than just BPD. He hates validation. Maybe I am just bad at it. I try again from time to time, but he tells me to stop using psychobabble. I have found the best thing is to not react or walk away. Now he complains he only talks to my back
Thank you for mentioning how your mom handled things. My mom was not around when I was a child, so my brother and I had to deal with my NPD/BPD? dad alone. Not a good situation at all. That is why I stay - so the children do not have to deal with it alone. It is good to know we are doing a little bit OK