BPD and SI

[Priebus]

Has anyone helped their pwBPD lessen or stop SI?  I find it very unsettling.

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[JQ]

Hi Priebus,

With only 3 post here I'm glad you found the site ... .I encourage you to read the references to the top and to the right to gain as much insight for some answers  you seek----->>>> 

Can you give us a little more information to go on ... .is the a spouse, gf/bf ... .we're anonymous here so feel free to tell us what you want ... .you won't find anyone here that will pass judgement because we have been or some are still in a relationship with their own BPD s/o.  Do you or your BPD have a therapist who is well versed in BPD behavior?  How much have you learned or know about BPD being a Cluster B mental illness?

What motivates people to cut, burn or harm themselves?

For attention. Harming themselves may seem like a way to keep their loved ones concerned and connected.   

To feel alive. Persons who are severely traumatized by sexual or physical abuse, neglect or a traumatizing event may detach themselves from their emotions and injure themselves so that they can regain feelings.   

To distract. Self-injury helps some individuals distract or release themselves from their emotional pain, anxiety or depression.    

Because they feel they must. Some persons who self-injure have a symptom of mental illness called psychosis, common in borderline personality disorder and schizophrenia, which causes them to break from reality.

There is so much to learn about BPD ... .but more importantly there is so to learn about yourself on your journey ... .you can't change the person you love with BPD ... .but you can change yourself ... .like most here ... .your probably a care giver aka a codependent ... .what have you learned about this?

You've among friends ... .someone will always be here to assist you ... .give you a hand up ... . 

J