So if y'all didn't know I've been keeping my involvement about being on Bpd family a secret from my pwBPD. Actually I've been keeping all my research a secret. I just didn't want him to feel like I was putting him in the crazy box.
But today I found out that my pwBPD has known I've been on here for a while. He checked my internet history one day and read all my posts and things. Today he casually said oh I know about your message board and the site your on and I didn't want to say anything because i could tell it was something you needed.
I was so shocked. Lol. This of course opened up a great and healing dialogue. I got to share with him about some of the things I've learned here like JADEing. He completely agreeded that JADEing was what I did to him and he even admitted to doing that to me alot. So weve agreed to work on not doing that to each other.
Anyway I'm so glad I'm out the closet about y'all here at bpdfamily and that my pwBPD thinks this is a great site for me to be a part of!
When you find yourself spending more time talking with others about your relationship issues and not your partner then this is a problem IMO. Having support outside the relationship is great and necessary, but there comes a time when the most productive conversations will be had with your SO. Unfortunately it is all too easy to discuss the difficult issues with someone else and never address/discuss them with our SO.
I am curious about one thing. Do you consider your husband checking your internet history a violation of privacy? Did you discuss this with him?