Hi Dontknow88,
Welcome to the board
It does feel like a long haul at this point, not only for you, but for your son. It's there a legal custody order in place at this point? How did you you both agree to the current arrangement?
To answer your detaching question, I kind of felt sorry (empathy) for my kids' step dad when I started to observe her belittling him publicly.
There are a lot of resources here which can help you raise your son with an unhealthy parent. What is your immediate concern?
Hello, nothing legal right now, he lives in another country right now and he is understanding that I am the full time parent,he's financially there and try's to visit once a month (but for how long?)
My immediate concern is that he's going to pop up One day and want to take my son by himself with new girlfriend for the weekend. (Word is she's "open-minded" "crazy" too) My concern is that throughout life hes (my son) just going to see new "Aunts" make attachments with them and lose contact because dad can't keep up a relationship. Or even keep up a relationship with my son.
I can't tell you how many times he told me he doesn't know how long he's going to love my son.
It's a bit confusing that though he was planned out of "love" and All he broke up with me late in my pregnancy and said he regrets the baby because I won't give him any more time. He sound like a jealous little kid. So for that my other concern is some hidden resentment he has for my son.
Told me about a relationship would've lasted longer if it wasn't for him. And now he's all in love with my son, well our son.
I think you can see now that I'm just really concerned out of the things he said and actions.
On top of that he doesn't know anything about kids know how to take care of them.