Hi, been a long time, but here I am again. My husband is the child of a uBPD mother, & has had BPD since I met him some 50 yrs ago. Didn't recognize it then , of course. Any way, in about the 25th year of our marriage, his BPD raged against me & my daughter (then 17 living
home). Abusive, even violent. Have used BPD techniques of managing his illness & read endless tutorials, but it appears it has reared its ugly head again. Latent for years, with no realtime provocations he has become nasty toward me, cursing me & demeaning me ( like he did in the "good ol days). Is this age related? He is 70. It is so painful when he verbally abuses me. What should be my reaction to this. If I ignore it, it would appear that it gives him permission to continue. I do not want to be cursed at & talked down to. I realize it's his illness but that doesn't make it less painful. I have let him know this is not acceptable.
Best part is, to the outside world, he is Mr Nice Guy. Everybody loves him. But to me, it's a different story.
I am back on the BPD website looking for support.