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« on: August 11, 2016, 05:30:28 PM »

Hello everyone

Questions and some are easy to figure out but still

Son's mother just tried calling me, she tried last night. I emailed her and told her no more calls, only emails.

Her response was

Her lawyer said calls were better?

She's asking me to take pictures of our sons clothes before she will bring more over, I only have 2 pair of shorts and tshirts right now, been washing them out by hand, grandma bought 4 outfits and asked me not to tell daughter, son's mother.

I talked to her pastor on Tuesday and he told me my son's mothers bf is trying to keep him away from his mother and he's already told me 3 times he plans to give my son to his family. I know he can't do this anyway but it does upset me that he even suggest it.
Pastor told me I will get full custody because his mother is so unstable and chaotic. I hope so, I am working on getting a lawyer.

I do not believe my son is safe around her bf when he wants to get rid of him, I don't think my fears are irrational.

Thanks everyone and like I said, she don't have a lawyer and that is obveous, but her bf did spend 48 hours in jail for assulting my exgf. I do not want my son around him, or her.
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« Reply #1 on: August 11, 2016, 09:38:03 PM »

Though it's hearsay at this point,  can you call an anonymous CPS line for advice?  I'm not a lawyer,  cop,  or other professional,  but this sounds like the bf is telegraphing that he's planning a crime.  What is he saying specifically, and what are you responding with?
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« Reply #2 on: August 11, 2016, 09:45:19 PM »

Hello Turkish, he told me back in early spring he was giving my son to his family in another state, then a few weeks later told me they were going to visit on a certain date so I could meet them. He's mentioned it between this as well, and last Tuesday his pastor told me he believes our son stands in the way of his and mom's relationship.
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« Reply #3 on: August 11, 2016, 09:59:37 PM »

If he talks to you again suggest in some way that instead of giving your son to his family you can take him. I believe he is bats*** crazy to even think that makes any sense. However, he may be able to convince son's mother to go along with that as long as she doesn't think you are winning. I know it sounds crazy but it sounds like you are dealing with people that may think that makes sense.
By doing so you are also helping the two of them (son's mom and bf) as the pastor believes.
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« Reply #4 on: August 11, 2016, 10:26:58 PM »

Hello Turkish, he told me back in early spring he was giving my son to his family in another state, then a few weeks later told me they were going to visit on a certain date so I could meet them.

Document this.  You did,  right?  I know that you did.  What he proposed is a federal crime.  

We'll take it as a given that he's | please read | crazy.  Being milquetoast in the face of that may be signaling that you might be OK with that.  Personally,  of if my Ex's husband said something like that,  I'd go Spanish Inquisition and make it clear that this wasn't an option.  :)o you feel that he's dangerous to you? 
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« Reply #5 on: August 11, 2016, 10:44:12 PM »

I do not fear him, he's a punk and I told his pastor I want to break him in half and I could in a heart beat. He's a scrawny little sh## and really thinks he's a big shot around my exgf, his eyes stare off in both directions and he reminds me of a snake. Her bf before me was called "it" from her mother. Had no teeth and bought her meth so she could get high.

Her new bf couldn't buy a date except with my ex, she will date anyone, any age, as long as they give her all the attention she needs. She told me once that when I lost weight that she can't date skinny, in shape guys because they make her look fat.

His pastor said he's total codependent as well as her, they fight all the time and of coarse she drives him into crazy.
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