Re: Shes ignoring emails about the holidays

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Book it and don't worry about it.  Treat this as if you were paying your light bill, you walk in, write the check, and walk out - not thinking about it again until the next bill.

And, if it was me, and my X started throwing a fit about the flight I booked, I would just either ignore her (which would piss her off), play dumb (which would piss her off more), or say "I'm sorry, I thought that's what you told me" (which would send her into the stratosphere).

Either way - I would accomplish everything I wanted to - getting the right flights for the child, getting my X boxed into a corner, and sticking it to her a bit by making her pay for not being responsible or smart enough to do that crap for herself.

[Morphine]

Book it and don't worry about it.  Treat this as if you were paying your light bill, you walk in, write the check, and walk out - not thinking about it again until the next bill.

And, if it was me, and my X started throwing a fit about the flight I booked, I would just either ignore her (which would piss her off), play dumb (which would piss her off more), or say "I'm sorry, I thought that's what you told me" (which would send her into the stratosphere).

Either way - I would accomplish everything I wanted to - getting the right flights for the child, getting my X boxed into a corner, and sticking it to her a bit by making her pay for not being responsible or smart enough to do that crap for herself.

[Coolmomof4]

Geez Morphine that would send her into the next solar system wherever that is!

The order says the flight time has to be agreed to before it is booked.  If this ends up being a fight... we'll just pick him up in the 25th at 1pm as the order states.  Actually... it would be well worth the drive. :evil:

[Morphine]

hehehe.

Oh, I didn't know the order stated that both parties had to be in agreement beforehand.  That seems like the order has been designed to help aid more BS.  When we sat down, my attorney was real specific about wording the parenting plan to make it as cut and dry as possible and with little need for discussion.

At least now you can show that you have tried to work through this and that she has been the one causing the problems, so if you ever need to go back and admend the order.

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[Coolmomof4]

Umm, well...  and don't drive to GA and smack me...DH and I wrote that part.  It isn't a part of the original order signed by the judge.  We negotiated it later.  The part about agreeing to it was because according to the agreement SHE is supposed to book the flight, and we didn't want her going off and booking some ridiculous time.  Plus this was before we ever thought we would consider SS flying on the 26th instead of picking him up on the 25th.

She emailed last night and said "please don't book it any earlier than that."  I'm not sure what "that" is referring to... the early time that I said we want, or the later time that she wants.  I responded that I would book the early one then... and we'll see what she says. 

[Coolmomof4]

Wow she catually agreed to the earlier time.  I am completely shocked.  But after allt hat, I really am pushing DH toward just picking him up on the 26th.  I don't know.  I just don't trust her to get SS to the flight.

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