Then I am reminded of the economics of life: all the succesfull therapies require money, trained professionals, lots and lots of time, and willingness to participate of all parties involved.
So I have been on an adventure the past couple years to improve my "therapeutic parenting skills" so I can be the pre-therapy mentor/life coach for my BPDDD26. Thanks to so much support of my friends her at FTF, and lots and lots of reading and practicing and therapy and practicing and venting... things are getting better at my house. Still no formal T for my D, yet she is managing her emotional level to be in our home, and is slowly developing the ability tob e reflective about her part in the ups and downs of her r/s's with her friends -- esp. bf's. It is actually refreshing that she can share with me the things she did on fb, who blocked her, and that she gets why - it is what she put on fb in anger. Such a giant leap forward.
Skills I am trying to implement: validating environment
in my home and in my persoanl r/s's; knowing what my values
are and putting boundaries
in place to protect these, myself, and others in the household; meeting my own needs
so I don't look to others in my family to do this through their actions and behaviors (this is actually the hardest old pattern to change for me - I am an accomplished whiner); radical acceptance
of others and outcomes; all surrounded by an energy field of unconditional LOVE
What skills have helped make your life better, if you choose to stay in a r/s with your pwBPD?