Do the symptoms of BPD improve/worsen with age?

[Fuzzy Bunny]

I am wondering if this is just a natural part of all of us when we age. Several older relatives, who I dont believe have PD's, became more ridgid in thinking as they age.

There is also the trait of scepticism increasing in some of us as we age. I know I am guilty of this.

Understand they dont deal with death well (who does?), its a big emotional time for us, for our PD partners, tough, as we age, more of our friends and relatives pass on.

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[tenacity]

That is such a good point. I have thought about that a lot too. I have even read a "little" bit about it. Haven't seen too much information on it. Maybe it should be researched a little more.
My mom's hit the fan in spades about 11-12 years ago. Her bpd/npd mother had just died and she and all of her siblings had taken turns taking care of her at home. According to my mom her mom's last words to her were -"insert mom's name here leave me alone." Which of course would be devastating, but now I wonder if it even happened. Then we moved 1200 miles away - a year later they moved here. So lots of big things happened. But in the last few years, it has continued to get bad, not level off or anything. She really didn't have much of a relationship with her mom. They weren't close at all. So who knows.

[Jemima]

I have read that BPD tends to get better with age --- that some people gain emotional maturity over the course of adulthood that most people gain by age 18 --- but truthfully I haven't seen that. My mother "came out of the closet" after my father died five years ago. My mother and father as a unit always drove me crazy ... triangulation, thy name is [Jemima's parents] ... but I think my dad probably tamped down her rages. I never saw her just lose it before he died although she could be unexpectedly mean and nasty, and she definitely always has had a sense of entitlement, and is rigid and hyper-concerned with appearances.

My MIL is about the same as she always was with us ... has quiet periods punctuated by flares of rage and border-lion drama. And always, always, the lying, manipulation, and maliciousness. But if I could get my SILs to be honest, I'm thinking they would say she is worse.

A psychologist friend once told me that my MIL would just get worse with age, "because she will just stop giving a sh*t." Oh, yeah.

[tenacity]

Probably a lot of truth to what your T friend said 

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