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mandalamama
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« on: February 20, 2006, 10:51:04 PM »

i've already introduced myself elsewhere. i'm honestly not yet committed to working on it, but i'm not eagerly looking forward to separation or divorce, either. we have one very young child. i'm in a safe place, where i can take all the time i need to educate myself, get some perspective from a distance, get support, and take my time making decisions that are going to affect my child's life, and my life. i know i'm blessed in having that time to think.

he's in therapy, has been on meds for 3 weeks, and is in a violence-prevention program (i left after he became physically abusive). yet he's already telling me that he's "all better" and i can come home anytime  :smiley i told him, from my own experience working through PTSD and depression, it takes T-I-M-E to heal yourself, to know yourself, and i don't want to rush anything. i think he understands. (never sure with him!)

anyway. not sure if this is the right forum for me to be in, but neither does the Separation/Divorce folder seem like the right place. i'm "in transition" is the best way to put it. looking forward to learning a lot from everyone here smiley
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« Reply #1 on: February 21, 2006, 12:49:06 AM »

Welcome and keep reading.  While he is working on himself, I think it is important for you to seek counseling for yourself too.  You've been through a lot emotionally and you will also need time to heal.  You are doing the right thing by not rushing his healing process.  Take at least a year off away from him and use that time wisely by getting counseling for yourself.

Glad to hear you and your child are safe right now.  Time to focus on YOU.  God bless you.  smiley
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