undone - I have a similar situation with my husband's upbdx. She loves for me to hide and become invisible, so for a long time I felt like she was "winning" if I would stay away for my own sanity.
The key to our situation is that my husband is now also ingnoring/not responding to her. He has gone to e-mail communication only and does not interact with her at all when he attends SS's activities.
Absolutely. There does need to be a united front in your situations. Hubbies need to practice ignoring those BPD's that are still obsessed with them.
In the meantime, as for soem crazy gal spinning her little webs, yup, you still need to ignore. In fact, you need to "blow it off" for yourself. If you're busy thinking about her next move, she is f---ing with you. Believe me, because I go there alot, even though I shouldn't.
One helpful phrase that I learned a while back is, "What other people think about me is really none of my d--- business." It's only important when the actions arise.
