POLL: Warning Signs That You're Dating a Loser - Carver, PhD

[Is it worth giving up blame to give your child happiness?]

Is it worth giving up blame to give your child happiness?
	You have the power to influence your child's well-being either positively or negatively. In fact, the only individuals who have this power are the same individuals that are feeeling the anger and the blame. Conflict has a high cost to both the parents and the child. The cost of child security, self-esteem, confidence, emotional control, happiness, normal personality development, and a range of other considerations. You can stop the conflict on your end.
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[Bumpy Road]

i can yell you this... i both loved and hated this article... as a non it made complete sense and as a PD it bugged the sht out of me... but I understand and respect it. I wish... for my own protection I had read it and embedded it into my psyche years ago.

[gertrude]

I just realized something - the author talks about small kindnesses and how we feel grateful for them - they give us hope and they keep us in the relationship.  I think I was finally able to leave b/c even those small kindnesses were coming more infrequently - and it was getting colder, nastier and more distant in between - Thank you my darling BPD for changing from an intermittent A**hole to a permanent one.  I think that that is what made some of the difference.  Carol

[LOAnnie]

I just wanted to add that this author's articles (and other psychologists' articles on personality disorder) can also be found at a site called Counseling Resource:

http://counsellingresource.com/distress/personality-disorders/understanding/index.html

Plus, you can write in questions and the psychologists will answer at the site!

-LOAnnie

Dr. Carver has several handouts on his web site www.drjoecarver.com.  Since these too are of interest to many of us, here are the ones currently featured on his Articles menu:

• Personality Disorders: The Controllers, Abusers, Manipulators and Users in Relationships
• Identifying Losers, Controllers and Abusers in Relationships
• Love and Stockholm Syndrome: The Mystery of Loving an Abuser
• Emotional Memory Management
• The Chemical Imbalance in Mental Health Problems
• Understanding Depression
• What Are "Bad Nerves"
• The Highway Patrol Approach to Parental Discipline
• ADHD: Causes, Symptoms, and Treatment