A quiet week, maybe something the counselor said?

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After a small blow up last Saturday, uBPDh has been fairly pleasant to live with the past week.  He had his first counseling session April 30th.  I asked him if he liked the counselor, his reply was "well, he's not out to make any friends."  Well, you don't say.  I went to counseling yesterday and we talked about this past week and his different behavior since he went.  I'm wondering with that comment he made plus the changed behavior if the counselor enlightened him just a little bit.  I know it won't last, but I am enjoying the peace. 

[ColAbb]

After a small blow up last Saturday, uBPDh has been fairly pleasant to live with the past week.  He had his first counseling session April 30th.  I asked him if he liked the counselor, his reply was "well, he's not out to make any friends."  Well, you don't say.  I went to counseling yesterday and we talked about this past week and his different behavior since he went.  I'm wondering with that comment he made plus the changed behavior if the counselor enlightened him just a little bit.  I know it won't last, but I am enjoying the peace. 

[wojah]

Hello ColAbb,

Glad to hear things have been quiet for you this past week.  It seems that the counselor is making some progress with your uBPDh.  Enjoy the peace while you can and keep your fingers crossed that the counselor will continue to help him.   Chances are, the counselor is giving him some ideas on how to change his behaviors and thinking in stressful situations.  It will take lots of time to retrain his mind and practice new, healthier ways of dealing with life's stresses. If he can continue practicing and working hard everyday to improve himself, then there is hope for him to change.

I wish you luck and hope that your ugpdh continues to improve and finally heal someday.  Realize there will be setbacks once in a while but if he can steadily move forward, he will be on the road to recovery.

Stay in touch and keep us posted. 

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