Boundaries - Henry Cloud PhD, John Townsend PhD

[1bravegirl]

I read both of those books. Boundaries and Better boundaries and I really got a lot out of both as well.

Especially Better boundaries..   Excellent read!   Loved it!  Two thumbs up..

I got it from the library both of them actually and wish i had my own copy to go back and read and reread regularly.

Definitely a turning point in my thinking.    xoxo

[blackandwhite]

Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life
by Henry Cloud and John Townsend




Book Description
Mod note: Boundaries explores the topic from an explicitly Christian perspective.

Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances — Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions — Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others — Spiritual boundaries help people of faith to distinguish God's will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator — Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask: - Can I set limits and still be a loving person? - What are legitimate boundaries? - What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? - How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? - Aren't boundaries selfish? - Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries? Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer biblically-based answers to these and other tough questions, showing us how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves.

About the Authors

Dr. Henry Cloud is a speaker and co-host, with Dr. John Townsend, of the nationally broadcast radio program, and cofounder of Cloud-Townsend Clinic and Cloud-Townsend Resources.  

Dr. John Townsend, clinical psychologist, speaker, and co-founder of Cloud-Townsend Resources, has authored or co-authored nineteen books.

    * Pub. Date: March 2002
    * Publisher: Zondervan
    * Format: Paperback, 304pp
    * ISBN-13: 9780310247456
    * ISBN: 0310247454

[Aurylian]

This is the book that started it all for me.  I was codependent and had no boundaries, completely enmeshed with my wife.  I read the "Boundaries in Marriage" version, which has more specific content to couples.  Highly recommended.  Maybe the most impactful book in my life at that time.

It goes through a solid description of what boundaries are, why they are important, what they should look like, and how to interact with people that don't like boundaries.

It is written by Christians, but don't let that set anyone back.  The book has great tools that are general in nature. 

Highly recommended.