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« on: June 28, 2007, 04:42:04 PM »
What "pet" names do you use for the BPD/NPD exes?  I thought of this because of PamelaMc's comment on another thread...

"We never use diagnosis, either, especially since The Terrorist will never be diagnosed..."
 
We refer to my husband's NPDx (who is Thai) as The Dark Princess.

Any other good ones out there?
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« Reply #1 on: June 28, 2007, 05:39:40 PM »
TFQ---The F***ing Queen. Or Smog, because we choke on her pervasiveness.
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« Reply #2 on: June 28, 2007, 06:24:42 PM »
"The Terrorist" truly IS one.
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« Reply #3 on: June 28, 2007, 06:32:05 PM »
We call ours Voldemort.
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« Reply #4 on: June 28, 2007, 06:53:09 PM »
I got my favorite from SpamLady... Emotional Terrorist, or ET for short.

This question has been asked before, here are some responses:
http://www.BPDfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=55313.0;all
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« Reply #5 on: June 28, 2007, 07:11:51 PM »
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Also we've referred to momster as Cujo from time to time.  I remember reading on one of these nickname posts that a least one other person or perhaps a few called their momster's cujo as well.  I can't rememeber who though. It's quite the universal name and fitting!
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« Reply #6 on: June 29, 2007, 08:26:32 AM »
Psycho ____ or PB for short. :evil:
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« Reply #7 on: June 29, 2007, 08:57:07 AM »
i am guessing this will be moved out if "coparenting" as not really applicable...BUT...

Nutty Buddy...sometimes he is nutty, sometimes my buddy...
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« Reply #8 on: June 29, 2007, 09:08:09 AM »
We call her Loo Loo because it's similar to her real name and points out her lunacy. 

I'm thinking about calling her Queenie, though, because of her behavior.  "Bow to the Queen or heads will roll" sums it up nicely.
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« Reply #9 on: June 29, 2007, 09:40:17 AM »
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We call ours Voldemort.

ha, ha, ha

mine is DoucheBoy - DB for short...also sometimes refered to as "he who shall not be named"
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« Reply #10 on: June 29, 2007, 10:38:22 AM »
Nucking Futs, Psycho, and Ding Dong are the favorites.  We never say those things in front of the kids, but they have started calling her "she who shall not be named" since they both like Harry Potter.   angel
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« Reply #11 on: June 29, 2007, 05:48:10 PM »
Bunny, as in Bunny Boiler.
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« Reply #12 on: June 29, 2007, 05:52:18 PM »
Cap'n Crazy. I just call him Cap'n.

I only use this online though.
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« Reply #13 on: July 03, 2007, 02:15:35 AM »
Darth Vader
I still have to download a new ring tone that plays the Darth Vader Music when she calls!
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« Reply #14 on: July 15, 2007, 01:41:17 AM »
HA!  I had to reply to this one - we refer to her mostly as that "biatch from hell" or "f___ing" biatch."  When I'm feeling charitable it's "Your crazy ex-wife" or "WACKO woman."  She's hauling hubby and SD back to court next week so she's earned a few new names recently.  ugh
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« Reply #15 on: July 15, 2007, 05:14:42 PM »
Voldemort and Darth Vader made me laugh.  :evil:

We are not as creative, it is 'the cow' or 'fatass'.
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« Reply #16 on: July 17, 2007, 12:46:49 PM »
Mine's nickname is just 'the dick'. I bought a bumpersticker that says 'don't be a dick'. I want to sneak over to his house and put it on his bumper. ha ha
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« Reply #17 on: July 17, 2007, 02:44:48 PM »
Quote from: newman on July 03, 2007, 02:15:35 AM
Darth Vader
I still have to download a new ring tone that plays the Darth Vader Music when she calls!

Funny you should mention this. My BPDx's ringtone is in fact the "Imperial March", Darth Vaders Theme or whatever you want to call it. I was looking for a good version of "If I only had a brain" but when I saw the 3rd Star Wars Installment, I told everyone Anakin Skywalker is a Borderline... IF YOU ARE NOT WITH ME, YOU ARE MY ENEMY! To which Obi Wan responds, Thinking in Absolutes is the path to the darkside or something along those lines.

Anyway, I called my ex Anakin for a little while but he is also fondly referred to as Dum dum, The King, Grendel (the monster in Beowulf), A-hole, idiot boy (IB), he who shall not be named, and the nameless one.

TO my daughter, I call him "your father"

I never refer to him as "daddy" because Daddy implies a good father. My ex is not. But my D would not understand the implication.

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« Reply #18 on: July 17, 2007, 05:44:15 PM »
We call her "IT"... as in the Steven King book.  The BPD/NPD ew is not really a person, but more like the nutcase creature from the sewer in the movie...of course we don't do refer to her as such in front of the kids.  We refer to her as "your mother", because "Mom" would imply that she is actually a true mother to the children.

The only scary thing is that on my cell phone it says, "IT Calling" when she calls, and that sends a chill up and down my spine.

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« Reply #19 on: July 18, 2007, 10:10:39 AM »
Speaking of ringtones, SD set up one of the phones so it says BPD ALERT on caller ID when her mother calls.  Reluctantly, and with a straight face, I made her change it.
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