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Author Topic: For those of you with a exBPD that represents themselves in court...  (Read 216 times)
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« on: July 24, 2007, 12:00:46 PM »

I have a couple of questions.  I have never, ever been in court so please forgive my ignorance.

Would you say that your exBPD is high-functioning or low-functioning? 

Was your exBPD successful in representing themselves?

DH's exBPD seems to be very low-functioning.  The woman cannot even spell correctly or use proper punctuation, so I can't imagine that she could represent herself in court.  Then again, I have no idea how our legal system works.

Thanks for your help!
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« Reply #1 on: July 24, 2007, 12:03:01 PM »

She hasn't done a very good job for herself.
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« Reply #2 on: July 24, 2007, 12:06:18 PM »

Lois, my S.O. has no choice but to represent himself in court.  It's really very difficult to do, sort of like doing surgery if you haven't gone to medical school.

His BPDex did represent herself at one time, and it was a fiasco.  We have not seen any difference in the outcome, either way.  Sometimes I think the judges make up their minds before they ever HEAR the case, and just do whatever the hell they want to.  I'm jaded, though, and no longer even believe in justice or fairness within the system.
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