Here is something that I posted in another thread that I think would be informational here, as well:Traits vs Disorder:
BPD is a disorder rated by dysfunction. When a person is high functioning (opposite of dysfunction) it means less severe. Most people we describe as "high functioning" are not clinical BPD
- rather they have personality disorder traits or BPD traits or other issues - all of which are enough to contribute to a very difficult relationship.Recycling
is something we both do and are equally responsible for. Many people contact there exs for various reasons after a breakup. Most of these contacts are not related to rekindling the relationship - however some are. From studies done here, we are as likely to contact or exs as they are to contact us - and we are as likely to try and rekindle as they are. BPD - NPD - ASPD Comorbidity
Extremely rare and not really indicated in this list below. BPD traits alone are enough to make this hard. And remember, the level of our pain we feel is not related to the severity of their disorder
- it is is related to our ability to cope.Denial
Someone with a subclinical traits oif BPD will much less suspect BPD than someone with severe BPD who is dysfunctional and can't hold a job, is suicidal, etc. Subclinical traits of BPD are technically not BPD so the denial is more or less accurate. The person still has serious issues.
Everyone - including all of us - tends to not suspect mental health issues (denial) until there is an emotional crisis. Many of us will learn from this experience that we too have been in denial of our own issues - like abandonment issues or codependency or etc. Hopefully we will o more to face them than our partners.
Here is a good link to help out with Facts
. These breakups are really painful. Stay with the facts, they will help you heal faster and better.http://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?board=45.0;sort=views;desc