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Author Topic: Can A BPD be in a physically abusive relationship?  (Read 72 times)
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« on: July 11, 2014, 03:31:43 AM »

I mean one where they are the victim?
I ask because I feel like most people who stay in physically abusive relationships are very much trapped in FOG. While a BPD can certainly feel and probably act normally on fear, doesn't their very illness make them immune to dealing with obligation and guilt the way most nons would?
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« Reply #1 on: July 11, 2014, 02:49:10 PM »

Hi Nope,

I think a pwBPD can end up in an abusive relationship like anyone else, and the people with BPD that I know certainly feel fear, obligation, and guilt.  BPD is a spectrum disorder, so their responses will vary according to the severity of their symptoms.  A pwBPD feels just like we do, except his/her feelings may be magnified exponentially depending on where he/she lies on the spectrum.

Also, some people with BPD (not all) have experienced childhood abuse, so their "tolerance" for abusive behavior may be very high compared to someone who hasn't experienced that.

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