I have often wondered about this very subject , a good question....... and in my own case my diagnosed BPD SO , is EXTREMELY attractive, the sort of looks that she can use to manipulate males to do almost anything for her, I have witnessed it !
She gets away with bad behaviour that ordinary people would have no hope of doing!
I will give an example.. I was with her in her car , she was driving, with her baby in the back seat, driving at high speed (she was in a bad mood of course) well over the speed limit, and a police car pulled her over, he took one look at her an melted, I kid you not, he let her off and was very kind to her , if that was me driving I would have got a huge fine and a ticket.
I can give dozens of other examples. Other women don't like her, and aren't taken in by her appearance of course, and I notice on the whole, she doesn't like other women.
But when it comes to males , she has got them on a stick, if she was fat with a big nose, none of this would be happening.
Her appearance is a huge blank cheque , except with her female employer, she got the sack yesterday LOL.
Some time ago I visited a counsellor , who is experienced with BPD patients, and I asked him about his experience re- BPD women and appearance, he said in his experience nearly all of them he has dealt with over the years have been very attractive. Interesting.
What I am noticing now that she is 34 and starting to look older, she is becoming very aware that this attribute is fragile, and I often wonder what will become of her when her looks fade, as this is all she has , when this happens, she will no longer be the 'movie star' and people will not tolerate her antics, this will be very hard for her to deal with. I watched her face a few weeks ago as she was watching some young women , students in their early 20's , she had a look of absolute hatred towards them , they were young and happy, she was glaring at them with a look that would have burned paint off wood.
The whole subject re- beautiful women and BPD is fascinating for sure and there appears to be more about it that simple coincidence. Maybe worth some research?