What does this mean: "internalizing others' actions" ?

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Could someone tell me, please, what this means:  "internalizing others' actions" ?

I saw this mentioned elsewhere.  I've been told more than once that I am prone to do this, but I never knew what they were talking about.

Any information would be very welcome.

Best to all,

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[an0ught]

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not sure what was meant without more context but if I'd speculate where to dig deeper then I would point toward weak boundaries.

   Someone may point out that you take too much ownership for someone else's actions. Not letting them take charge, run it or fail with it.

Does this make sense in your context?

a0

[Skip]

The process by which our self develops through internalizing others' reactions to us.  This is also called symbolic interactionism or Looking Glass Self.

The rudiments of this sociological theory can be reduced to three facets.
    * One imagines how they appear to others.
    * One imagines the judgment that others may be making regarding that appearance.
    * One develops a self-image via their reflection; that is, the judgments or critique of others.

For example, if you receive a negative or condescending response to you appearance from a variety of persons that you socialize with, you might begin to view yourself as less physically attractive or appealing. When you receive a positive or encouraging response to jokes or comedy, you become more apt to engage in these social behaviours or to take pride in them.

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Someone may point out that you take too much ownership for someone else's actions. Not letting them take charge, run it or fail with it.

Does this make sense in your context?

a0

Thanks, anOught-- Yes, sometimes that's just the case!

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The process by which our self develops through internalizing others' reactions to us.  This is also called symbolic interactionism or Looking Glass Self.

The rudiments of this sociological theory can be reduced to three facets.
    * One imagines how they appear to others.
    * One imagines the judgment that others may be making regarding that appearance.
    * One develops a self-image via their reflection; that is, the judgments or critique of others.

For example, if you receive a negative or condescending response to you appearance from a variety of persons that you socialize with, you might begin to view yourself as less physically attractive or appealing. When you receive a positive or encouraging response to jokes or comedy, you become more apt to engage in these social behaviours or to take pride in them.

This is right-on, Skip, and I can work with it...thank you!