The High Conflict Couple
A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy, & Validation
Alan E. Fruzzetti, Ph.DBook Description
High Conflict Couple is a concise, easy to understand guide for couples seeking to deepen their relationship and ease their conflicts. This is an excellent book to share
with your BPD partner as it doesn't make direct mention of BPD - other than that the authors are all leaders in the field of BPD.
Some couples need more than just the run-of-the-mill relationship advice to solve their problems in love. When out-of-control emotions (BPD) are the root cause of problems in a relationship, no amount of effective communication or intimacy building will fix what ails it. What these "high-conflict" couples need is help regulating the emotions that provoke the "escape or win" mode of interaction that has come to define them.
In this book, Fruzzetti, an expert in the use of dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) in couplesâ€™ therapy adapts this powerful set of emotion regulation tools. Using mindfulness and distress tolerance techniques, youâ€™ll learn how to deescalate conflict situations before they have a chance to flare into serious fights. Other techniques help partners in a relationship disclose their personal fears and vulnerabilities and validate one anotherâ€™s experiences. Ultimately, youâ€™ll learn how to manage problems with negotiation, not conflict, and how to find true acceptance and closeness with your partner.
The books tone is a bit crisper, cooler, and more analytical than most marriage guides. This is actually its strength, speaking to the analytical half of your relationship in a straight-forward way they will appreciate and understand even if they shy away from most relationship-help books as being too touchie-feelie. The message is the same as many guides, that validation (lingo for healthy supportive loving communication) is the key to a happy, intimate relationship-- and it is the key. This is the first book to use dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) to help high-conflict couples regulate out-of-control emotions, tolerate distressing situations, and resolve problems-an approach proven to help even the most highly reactive couples build healthy relationships.About the Author
Alan E. Fruzzetti, Ph.D., is associate professor of psychology and director of the DBT Therapy and Research Program at the University of Nevada, Reno. He is the coauthor with Perry Hoffman and Marsha Linehan of Dialectical Behavior Therapy with Couples and Families.
# Paperback: 177 pages
# Publisher: New Harbinger Publications; 1 edition (December 3, 2006)
# Language: English
# ISBN-10: 157224450X
# ISBN-13: 978-1572244504