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[Think About It....]

I hope the GAL doesn't make this all about her bill.  That would be such a waste of your time and attorney fees.  Certainly DA had to have done something to warrant a hearing that involves all of you and I hope it was screwed up enough to take center stage at the hearing and let the GAL's fee issue be a side show.

I've worried about that too. Although I think the bill will more likely be used to underscore her inability to act in a responsible way. When we were talking I mentioned that DA does not contribute to the well being of the children, financially or otherwise. I went on to say the bills have gotten out of hand for me and it's becoming more difficult for me to care for the kids financially because of legal fees (their needs are being met...but I have't been able to contribute to college funds...or spend money on them like I would like). She mentioned child support.

She also spoke of santions for legal fees for me. She has been reviewing the case file and this motion DA's Attorney filed is bogus. Meaning it's already been heard. Of course I don't understand all the legal ramifications, because the GAL is the kid's attorney, not mine. I don't really see how the GAL can get mixed up in the legal battle, unless of course she sees the battle as detrimental to the kids...She's told me on more than one occasion that she doesn't understand the logic of DA or her attorney.

[doc101]

I hope the GAL doesn't make this all about her bill.  That would be such a waste of your time and attorney fees.  Certainly DA had to have done something to warrant a hearing that involves all of you and I hope it was screwed up enough to take center stage at the hearing and let the GAL's fee issue be a side show.

I've worried about that too. Although I think the bill will more likely be used to underscore her inability to act in a responsible way. When we were talking I mentioned that DA does not contribute to the well being of the children, financially or otherwise. I went on to say the bills have gotten out of hand for me and it's becoming more difficult for me to care for the kids financially because of legal fees (their needs are being met...but I have't been able to contribute to college funds...or spend money on them like I would like). She mentioned child support.

She also spoke of santions for legal fees for me. She has been reviewing the case file and this motion DA's Attorney filed is bogus. Meaning it's already been heard. Of course I don't understand all the legal ramifications, because the GAL is the kid's attorney, not mine. I don't really see how the GAL can get mixed up in the legal battle, unless of course she sees the battle as detrimental to the kids...She's told me on more than one occasion that she doesn't understand the logic of DA or her attorney.

[sonnyboy]

Definitely keep us posted on the outcome of court, requested sanctions, the GAL's take on things, etc. 

I'd hate to see this routine of madness continue on ad infinitum.

SB

[Oy-vey!]

I hope you mentioned to your attorney the observation of the GAL that the motion had already been heard by the court.  This will save you a lot of $$$$ since your attorney only has to file a motion to dismiss (or whatever the motion is) in order to get it thrown out before it goes in front of the judge.

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[bewildered]

When we were talking I mentioned that DA does not contribute to the well being of the children, financially or otherwise.

During my hearing, the Judge (I think) asked me if my BPDexW had sent me money or other things - I said, Well, she does send small gifts to the child once in a while - i.e. nothing substantial.  In the ruling, he explicitly stated that a) She has a good job and b) she did not think it proper to send any money for support and so c) assessed her child support AND arrears ... (Almost like saying - "Well, it's your child also and you simply did not make any contribution of support, so you should" (I remember her attorney asking me "Do you make as much money as before?  Why did you file for child support?" I said "Philosophically, she should")

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