Does any family here have experience with the BPDmom getting therapy with their child?
Did it do any good?
Long story short: My 9 year old SD (with us on weekends, holidays, etc. after a long custody battle in which my DH lost to a real nut job) is showing serious signs of depression and anxiety. She can't sleep at night because she claims that she "hears voices and sees scary monsters", she says she feels "like a black cloud is following her around", she is mopey and can't get excited about anything anymore--not even her birthday or holidays. She hardly eats (the poor thing weighs not even 50 lbs). Something is clearly going on in her life. Mom remarried quickly, day after the divorce was final, to a man the little girl hardly knew. There are also deaths and DUIs involved in the story. It sounds like a soap opera, a real ugly one. You all know what I am talking about.
My DH and her were seeing a family therapist together and getting to the bottom of a lot of her troubles. Her mom is a real classic BPD type. She treats her daughter like a doll to dress up, tells her what to think, and yet apparently yells and belittles her a lot too.
After claiming nothing is wrong with her daughter for the past year, now BPDmom has decided she will find a therapist and that they will go to therapy together and we are so worried.
Just curious if anyone has any valuable ideas or suggestions for us. My DH is going to try to be involved in the whole process but the mom acts like he is the most horrible person in the world (because he tried to get custody)--won't even look at him, hardly talks to him, and basically is responsible for every form of PAS that I can see.
I read the stories here and it just breaks my heart for the children involved. And it really scares me when I think of the damage that is possibly happening to my very sweet little SD.