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Think About It... The Borderline and the narcissist. The borderline tends to be dominated mostly by abandonment fears, and the narcissistic person, by fear of the loss of specialness or appreciation.When the promise of that bond is threatened, the borderline responds with blame and attack defenses. The narcissist tends to withdraw, fears a loss of specialness, easily becomes injured or outraged ~Joan Lachkar, Ph.D..
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« on: November 22, 2008, 02:45:29 AM »
Again re-engaging
Just very interesting sample.  i have recieved it today
"Lena nothing changes I like you I miss you
 is it ok?
 is it bad ?"

He asked me fantastic qustion  Is it OK or is it bad?

I quess it is the core of any problems with BPD   

It is not ok and now it is not bad.  IT IS JUST NOTHING
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« Reply #1 on: November 22, 2008, 09:43:03 AM »
El,
WOW, you are getting there!  Isn't it great when we can just look at what they say/write and go "huh?" instead of just melting?

 

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« Reply #2 on: November 22, 2008, 10:01:49 AM »
yes, i try )

Now when i read so many posts which are contented by pain, love, misunderstanding  i just remember all my feelings, fears,
sufferings,  questions to myself.   I remember how i run for him to the airport (first time), i was crazy and at that moment i thought HOW IT COULD be, i have no right to lose him, i so loved him.  It was like little death.  Parting is a little death.
When i got know that he had a cancer, i was in shock and decided that i had to fight with him against it and we had to win.

But now,   Eveything looks like it was just nightmare what lasted pretty long time.
I am awaking day by day.

I would like to say,  WE CAN OVER COME EVERYTHING      MAybe now it is unbearable, but tomorrow it will look absolutly another way


EVERYTHING CHANCES   AND IT IS GOOD

I so thank this site and all people here for GREAT HELP
 
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« Reply #3 on: November 24, 2008, 10:42:21 AM »
El - You are so strong and doing a great job in your recovery. You have been through a lot and are coming through the worst of it. Just think how life will be in another month, 6 months, year. Amazing how we grow and learn. Something our BPDs cannot do.

Keep it up!

Chili
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