Getting Past the Affair - Douglas K. Snyder PhD

[DavidWebb]

Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On -- Together or Apart
by Douglas K. Snyder PhD, Donald H. Baucom PhD, Kristina Coop Gordon Phd


It did not seem to matter that the T told me that the affair was part of her disordered behavior, or she claimed it was ‘going off the deepend’ hormonally.

BPD or no BPD, it still hurt.

This book helped me get past pain by focusing on flashbacks, triggers and setting boundaries. When those reasonable boundaries were critiqued as 'being controlling' and ignored  I started to suspect BPD...

The sections about examining your relationship and if you should stay or not probably won’t apply when dealing with a BPD spouse,(there are so many other issues to be considered)  but the passages about how to take care of yourself and surviving infidelity are very relevant.