Article 14: Sexual Addiction: When the Sex is Too Important to Us
According to Robert Weiss, the Executive Director of The Sexual Recovery Institute (Los Angeles), when love and sexuality are used as a way to cope, rather than a way to grow and share, partner choice becomes skewed. Compatibility becomes based on "whether or not you will leave me," "how intense our sex life is" or "how I can hook you into staying," rather than on whether you might truly become a peer, friend and companion.
These relationships are characterized, over time, by unhealthy dependency, guilt and abuse.
Healthy intimacy, however, is characterized by more than romance, intensity and sex. Intimacy evolves over time. Loving relationships develop partially through utilizing those first exhilarating times to begin to build a bridge toward deeper, longer term closeness.
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