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Title: I am not alone-here you all are Post by: Candace50 on June 28, 2020, 02:08:34 PM Greetings. A family member shared this site with me, encouraging me to see that I am not alone. It is hard to live with confusion let alone the pain of a hurting child who hurts others, of being in a family where silence is kindness and speaking reality out load is unloving/unkind/causing the problem.
What am I seeking? Wisdom, knowledge, balance, boundaries, a way to love (if there is one) in the face of so much anger/hatred/abuse. My reading has led to a family tree search. I think this BPD is all over both sides of our tree along with Asperger's, Dyslexia, and Anxiety Disorders. My whole life I focused on drinking/addiction as our family pothole. Now, I suspect mental health issues are the drivers for alcohol and drugs. Maybe that is an oversimplification. Anyway, hello. And thanks for being here. Title: Re: I am not alone-here you all are Post by: Naughty Nibbler on June 28, 2020, 11:03:22 PM My reading has led to a family tree search. I think this BPD is all over both sides of our tree along with Asperger's, Dyslexia, and Anxiety Disorders. My whole life I focused on drinking/addiction as our family pothole. Now, I suspect mental health issues are the drivers for alcohol and drugs. Maybe that is an oversimplification. Anyway, hello. And thanks for being here. Hi Candace50:I tend to agree with your logic. I believe that genetics plays a big part in mental health issues. From that point, how an individual deals with the cards they are dealt, can make a big difference in the outcome. Those who don't get help or resist treatment and/or counseling, tend to use unhealthy ways to self-soothe, such as alcohol and drugs. Abuse & environment can be a factor, but you can't discount that the abusers are dealing with mental illness and that their children could be dealing with genetics alone or genetics & abuse. |