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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: Fixmenotyou on January 29, 2018, 04:22:40 AM



Title: From Romantic to friendships, im a magnet .
Post by: Fixmenotyou on January 29, 2018, 04:22:40 AM
If I was supposed to learn from my past I'm failing miserably.  From sociopath to psychopath to possible NPD to women with BPD.  I'm sicker than I thought.  An empathetic pathetic need to be wanted and needed and they have put the roof over my head.  Feeling totally helpless with nowhere to turn and nowhere to go so I remain to be stolen from and also accused of theft.  I'm completely embarrassed I have made such awful choices and misjudgement of character.   


Title: Re: From Romantic to friendships, im a magnet .
Post by: FindingMe2011 on January 29, 2018, 07:51:29 AM
If I was supposed to learn from my past I'm failing miserably.

Is it possible, that maybe, you dont truly understand your past?

From sociopath to psychopath to possible NPD to women with BPD.

Please explain, somewhat ambiguous

I'm sicker than I thought.

Then seek help, like u are doing here... .getting some professional help, may also be in order

An empathetic pathetic need to be wanted and needed and they have put the roof over my head. 

I suggest being kind and forgiving to yourself... .If you cant do this for yourself, can u truly do it for others? Some of what u describe, are traits of co-dependency, most on here, are in this boat... .who exactly has put the roof over your head? and what does this mean?

Feeling totally helpless with nowhere to turn and nowhere to go so I remain to be stolen from and also accused of theft.  I'm completely embarrassed I have made such awful choices and misjudgement of character.   


No friends or family close? it sounds like your in bad situation... .Explaining your situation a little more clearly, will help others, understand,,,understanding how/why we make poor choices, and acting on this knowledge... .will go a long way, in not repeating... .I wish u well PEACE


Title: Re: From Romantic to friendships, im a magnet .
Post by: Lucky Jim on January 29, 2018, 04:59:15 PM
Hey Fixme, We've all made mistakes so don't be so hard on yourself.  You are human, like the rest of us.  Suggest you embrace your shortcomings as part of who you are.  Don't beat yourself up, OK?  The place to start, I suggest, is with yourself.

LuckyJim


Title: Re: From Romantic to friendships, im a magnet .
Post by: Mutt on January 30, 2018, 08:48:37 AM
Hi fixmenotyou,

*welcome*

I’d like to join the others and welcome you to the site.

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An empathetic pathetic need to be wanted and needed and they have put the roof over my head

Empathy is a good quality, think of doctors, nurses, police officers etc... .can you imagine a world if people had zero empathy? Although we do have an empathy deficit in the world.

Don’t be hard on yourself. I like your username and I agree in the context of compassion take that compassion that you have for others and point it at yourself for self compassion.

It sounds like something very difficult has happened. Can you give us a backstory? We’re here to help.


Title: Re: From Romantic to friendships, im a magnet .
Post by: Bo123 on January 31, 2018, 06:43:50 PM
Fixmenotyou--Who hasn't made a bad decision in a relationship or choice of one?  Do you have the resources to see a counselor who may be able to start putting this puzzle together with you?  Once a few lights start coming on for you, things will start to make some sense and the decisions you make will be better.  You have a lot of options, but maybe you just can't see them right now.