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Title: I don’t know what to do Post by: southerngirldad on April 01, 2021, 11:43:01 AM I feel helpless and lost with my relationship with my wife. I think she has bpd and I need help. I first realized something was wrong shortly after the birth of our first kid 5 years ago and assumed it was post partum depression or something but after a year or so I thought that I was to blame and lost my sense of what was up or down etc. Another year goes by and i was trying to figure out why I was such a bad father/husband/person and I started to realize I needed to see a therapist. She refused to see a marriage counselor because I was the one that needed to change. After seeing a therapist and getting my confidence back I was able to see that maybe i wasn’t the root cause of our family troubles. I found a book that opened me eyes and helped me to understand what I was experiencing. “Stop Caretaking the BP/NP” was the most relatable book I have ever read. Looking back, there signs all along from when we first started dating that I completely missed or chose to ignore. Here we a few years later and nothing has changed, if anything it has gotten worse. She refuses to get help or admit that she has any issues. It helps to understand but I don’t know how to survive my marriage and raise a happy healthy family. I’m looking for a support group to help me get through the tougher days and get her the help she needs.
Title: Re: I don’t know what to do Post by: Cat Familiar on April 01, 2021, 01:10:29 PM Your story is textbook; the structure is the same as countless here, only the details vary. Welcome :hi:
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