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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup => Topic started by: Thenextgirl on August 24, 2015, 02:14:52 PM



Title: Just left
Post by: Thenextgirl on August 24, 2015, 02:14:52 PM
It's been 12 hours. I walked and left him in a small resort town with nothing (he has a parasitic lifestyle and lived off me & social assistance). I'm too scared to go back and get him. I'm with my kids. But the guilt is overwhelming.


Title: Re: Just left
Post by: Ceruleanblue on August 25, 2015, 12:16:14 AM
So, how did this turn out? Has he contacted you? Did you remain no contact? Things must have been pretty extreme for you to take the measures you did.

Was there a fight that instigated your decision? Were you guys on vacation?


Title: Re: Just left
Post by: ptilda on August 25, 2015, 01:08:30 AM
Guilt is great. It's a pretty good indicator that you did the right thing and finally thought of YOU and the kids. It's also known as self-preservation, and is essential.

Be strong, friend.


Title: Re: Just left
Post by: Thenextgirl on August 25, 2015, 01:29:16 AM
Yes, we were on vacation. It was like someone flipped a switch and he snapped. The kids and I were shocked. I kept staring at my feet trying to figure out what to do. This made him angrier and said I was ignoring him. He tried to leave with all my money, cards and car. Threw things around. I have a few bruises from being held, I think, but calling the police calmed him enough to get our things and get out. His phone was one of the things he threw so when he finds a phone to call from he calls 15+ times. I end up turning the phone off. I haven't heard from him in a few hours now.