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Title: Good Thoreau Quote Post by: Turkish on October 17, 2013, 03:11:36 PM "That virtue we appreciate is as much ours as another's. We see so much only as we possess."
Of course, my ex saw it on FB and "liked" it. (I only stay "friends" due to our children and pics we each post of them, as well as to keep an eye on her state of mind since she's still living with me... .though I might change that when she moves out). I guess my point for us nons is not to be blind going forward, trying not to mirror, or to see when it is happening to us. For the BPDs... .the lack of judgement in their past and future SOs. Maybe I'm arrogant in excluding myself, despite me being her longest and most mature adult relationship by far. Maybe I don't know what I am talking about... . Title: Re: Good Thoreau Quote Post by: Suzn on October 17, 2013, 09:38:10 PM That is a great quote Turkish. I've also heard the saying "you can learn by virtue of others".
I guess my point for us nons is not to be blind going forward It was Socrates that said "know thyself". He summed up this commitment in the most famous statement of all philosophy: "the unexamined life is not worth living." Philosophers call this the Socratic commitment. When we look within and learn about who we are there is a side effect that is a welcome one. It is once we know ourselves that we can see things in others, not before. |