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Title: Learning about my ex and why it has been so difficult Post by: Shuman on January 30, 2016, 03:25:14 PM I read the description of breaking up from a BPD relationship and thought the author was watching me for the past few years. Am 100% sure that my ex-wife has BPD and I was the "knight-in-shining-armor". It has been very difficult and heartbreaking with her going back to an old boyfriend (whom she was seeing during the last year of our marriage). There was no "closure" and she just blamed my for emotional abuse and left, acting as though she was afraid of me. As someone who tries to fix things I internalized the blame and it affected my health, job and emotions. It is coming up on one year from the separation and I still have some dreams about her asking for forgiveness and mending our relationship. I have obviously watched too many Hallmark movies... .lol... .I am glad that I am not alone with this and would like to know if there are support groups available for survivors.
Thanks for reading Title: Re: Learning about my ex and why it has been so difficult Post by: livednlearned on January 30, 2016, 03:33:51 PM Hi Shuman,
It's bittersweet to learn about BPD after the relationship has ended. I'm glad you were able to put two and two together so you can regain your strength and make some sense of what can often be confusing and painful behavior. Are you separated from your wife, or divorced? Do the two of you communicate anymore? If she were to reach out to you and want to rekindle the relationship, how would you feel about that? |