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Title: New here Post by: sarafina on November 28, 2020, 08:26:20 AM Hi, I’m here to find and give support with bpd relationships. I’m in my 50s yet I can not shake off the triggers I experience when dealing with here. It’s frustrating because no one understand and I only hear, “well, she’s always very nice to me.” Looking forward to reading your posts (if I can figure out how to use this site.)! :hi:
Title: Re: New here Post by: beatricex on November 28, 2020, 08:40:10 AM hi sarafina,
I bet the people here will understand. Welcome. I hope you post more. In my case, the BPD'd people in my life are my Mom and step daughter. I believe they are both probably NPD'd too. Jury's still out on that one, but a common thing that occurs with the narcissist (I think) is they can smooze people and are very selective who they target. So you get a lot of gaslighting as a result. Thus, the "your Mom is always nice to me" I often get. grrrrrrrrrrr It was very validating when my Mom's best friend for most of last decade contacted me on Facebook (this was about 10 years ago), after they had a falling out, to let me know she always thought I was a nice person and didn't understand why my Mom said such horrible things about me. So. Maybe if you wait awhile, the tides will change. *) b |