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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: dumpsterdog on February 03, 2018, 04:37:48 AM



Title: What is the best way to gain her respect
Post by: dumpsterdog on February 03, 2018, 04:37:48 AM
Is the ONLY way to gain her respect to absolutely go NC and blow off her charming attemps for years.

or rephrased... " what is the best way to gain her respect "


Title: Re: gaining her respect,.?
Post by: FindingMe2011 on February 03, 2018, 08:12:04 AM
Is the ONLY way to gain her respect to absolutely go NC and blow off her charming attemps for years.

or rephrased... " what is the best way to gain her respect "


This would be the denial/bargaining stage... .BPD can mimic "respect", its in constant survival mode... .we see mirroring as respect, in the beginning... .and from the first time, the mirroring isnt perfect, the false self, in the both of you, kicks in the defense mechanisms... .You then spend the rest of the r/s, attempting to return there... .that place truly didnt exists, just a fantasy we all played a part in

I wish u well PEACE 


Title: Re: What is the best way to gain her respect
Post by: zeus123 on February 03, 2018, 08:38:17 AM
BPD and respect? That person doesn't exist, she's a FIGMENT of your imagination!

You should pardon the expression.