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Title: Where do we go from here? Post by: Jujem on June 11, 2017, 01:50:18 AM Hi ,ive been living with my bf for a year ,i am a patient, loving attentive woman who always puts others feelings before my own
There has been so many good times but outside influences take their toll ,and i am blamed when he gets stressed ... by anything that he see's as a major incident from a shop being closed,to others on the road/ roadrage job stresses how exes have treated him( apparently i will let him down too),i can feel him bubbling up to pick a fight and put all the blame on me for everything thats going wrong.I feel im.taking one for the team when he gets so angry and verbally abuses me,and need direction right now as he keeps threatening to leave me x Title: Re: Where do we go from here? Post by: Meili on June 13, 2017, 03:28:29 PM *welcome*
Let me welcome you here to the bpdfamily, and wish for you as much help and support as I have received. It's clear you have a lot in common with many of us here, and this is a community where we help each other, so I'm sure if you keep posting and reading you will find it helpful and will get good support and ideas you can use. Did something happen recently that has brought him to the point of threatening to leave you? There are communication skills that will minimize the behavior of someone with BPD and these have proven successful for some of the members here. Learning to slow things down will help you both. There are also some very informative articles on this web site - the links in the sidebar to the right are a great place to start - they will give you some good advice on how to cope in a BPD relationship. Keep posting - it is very therapeutic, and you will be greeted by so many people with circumstanced similar to your own. You will be amazed. Take care of yourself. |