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Title: Undiagnosed BPD - what should I do? Post by: Jeb H on April 09, 2021, 04:19:06 PM Hello, I am convinced that my wife has BDP and this is causing significant strain/stress in our relationship. She blames all our problems on me and just wants out of the marriage. Any suggestions other than those in the Stop walking on Eggshells book? I am working my way through that book and have been trying to install some of the suggestions but it is very difficult. Thanks! Jeb
Title: Re: Undiagnosed BPD - what should I do? Post by: Cat Familiar on April 10, 2021, 11:37:16 AM Probably the easiest thing to begin with is to learn not to invalidate her. Here is a helpful article: https://bpdfamily.com/content/communication-skills-dont-be-invalidating
And learning to listen well also helps: https://bpdfamily.com/content/listen-with-empathy Learning new communication skills takes practice, yields wonderful benefits. Keep reading and post more about what issues you are dealing with in your relationship. Title: Re: Undiagnosed BPD - what should I do? Post by: Mutt on April 10, 2021, 05:01:18 PM Hi Jen H,
I notice your title and post. Cat Familiar have you great advice. How long have you been married for and when did you cour in about BPD? Rome wasn’t built in a day. Some suggestions are difficult but become easier the more you practice and also knowing when to apply it. Also sometimes the tools don’t work depending on how a loved one is feeling and it’s ok if it doesn’t work. |