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if one needs to not be alone, than what is the need to not just sleep around, but purposely try to sleep with all of your friends?

i dont get it

Sex can be an easy, though temprary, validation. If it's not that way for you, then it's a clash of values and personality. Have you seen this?

Sexual Addiction: When the Sex is Too Important to Us (https://bpdfamily.com/bpdresources/nk_a114.htm)

It can be difficult for anyone who is not a love or sex addict to understand how love or sexuality can be exploited or evolve into destructive patterns of addiction and compulsion. Yet for the Love and Sex Addict, romantic love, sexuality and the closeness they offer, are experiences most often filled with pitfalls, anxiety and pain. Living in a sometimes chaotic emotional world of desperation and despair, fearful of being alone or rejected, the Love Addict endlessly longs for that "special" relationship.

Caught up in the constant search for a partner, the addict's endless intrigue, flirtations, sexual liaisons and affairs, leave a path of destruction and negative consequences in their wake of his or her behavior. Ironically, the Love or Relationship usually has few options to resolve these painful circumstances except by engaging in even more searching, creating an escalating cycle of desperation and loss. Just when seemingly "safe" in the rush of a new romantic affair or liaison the troubled Love or Sex Addict grows steadily more unhappy, fearful and bored and ends up pushing their partner away or looking outside the relationship for yet another new intensity or "love" experience.

Thus the cycle begins anew.

Lining up fresh supply in case the current supply fails, its about avoiding potencial pain, at least in my case.