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So it appears we are back on track. We medicines via psychiatrist, counselor/therapist about to enter the picture as well.We are still dealing with some post abortion complications but we are seemingly healthy. Actually it feels as if we are closer than ever before. Perhaps the experience we just weathered has strengthened our bond and shows my partner ‘here he is, sticking beside me despite all that just happened…” . There is more engagement: date nights, shopping together.  This is key I believe: shopping together. Not me running out to handle this chore for the both of us. I met a man at the gym recently who is 16 years married to a partner with BPD who told me what triggered his wife’s episodes was in part to his trying to do everything for her. Not letting her handle her own responsibilities: cooking, cleaning, shopping. I consider this as we move forward. We are discussing trying for pregnancy again in the future but first things first: Build necessary supports! I will get to spend time with her mother and aunt in a few weeks and am curious how that is going to go. So I have a big question: how do I bring up BPD with her? She told me once before she was diagnosed. I am curious how other couples tackle this issue. Is therapy the best way? I notice the psych medicating symptoms: adhd for instance, and I think the counseling/therapy will prove very helpful. I did make a mention yesterday when she asked me if I thought she had adhd. I responded that I saw it as yes, and the anxiety and other bpd related symptoms. I expected something to be said if I brought it up but nothing, no vitriol, no anger, just acceptance of the possibility. At any rate I am being somewhat cautious/slow but so glad to see we most likely make it through this storm

That’s great that she accepted you bringing that up. I feel that’s a really good start. I think therapy is the best place to start. An opinion coming from a professional objective person has the chance to be received way better than from you alone.

Good luck!