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Title: 3 yrs. out alienation documentation update Post by: nona on May 11, 2014, 09:28:21 AM so at 3 years post D&:)
50/50 shared custody of d11 school teacher now confirms, witnesses d11 rejecting me at school conference.will document. I have nasty "threatening more alienation" emails from UBPDX.documented. Rejection, crazy bossy emails from d11, always emailed to me while at BPDX's house.documented. UBPDX Dr Dad triggered his malpractice insurance for BULLYING d11's physician. So they are watching all of us.documented. due to UBPDX triggering his malpractice company, D11's physician (UBPDDAD's colleague) has ordered Mental health counseling, and getting on the ball with d11's medical needs. It took 3 years of suffering his BS to get this much on him. mean while d11 is alienated more thn ever. there is a good chance this counselor will see d11 situation and finally get her some support, this took 3 years of bs in a tiny town. I cannot afford a lawyer, I really dont have a plan. I fight alienation daily by loving my daughter. she is under a tremendous amount of pressure with doctor dad using his power and the whole village to support her to alienate/reject me. now that he is tripping red flags elsewhere, others are stepping up , and seeing something is wrong, but it is a SLOW process, waiting for the community, family, whatever, to catch up with what we have known for so long. Title: Re: 3 yrs. out alienation documentation update Post by: ForeverDad on May 13, 2014, 07:37:05 AM This is a common problem many deal with, the delayed accumulation of slowly dawning awareness, but sadly you've had it harder than others.
There were red flags in my case since Day 1 back in 2005. Ex was facing a threat of DV charge in one court yet managed to walk away from family court with temporary custody of our then preschooler. She obstructed parenting as much as she could, she made numerous allegations that came to nothing, etc. Every 2 or 3 years the court made baby step improvements. Finally, about 8 years later when our son was 11 years ol, ex's poor behaviors got the GAL and court's attention. I look back and think... . Eight Years! Imagine how much better his childhood could have been if the court would have been more proactive. Fortunately I had equal time for nearly 3/4 of that time. But it is what it is. What happened, happened. I'm looking forward to, um, the upcoming teen years! Title: Re: 3 yrs. out alienation documentation update Post by: Mcgddss on May 13, 2014, 11:14:09 AM I was logging on to report my latest when I read yours.
Thanks for sharing - it helps to see others are going through the same thing. The most tiring thing is the documentation. I just want to parent my children, not document what they tell me about UBPDDad. Title: Re: 3 yrs. out alienation documentation update Post by: nona on May 20, 2014, 07:58:22 AM 8 years ! Forever dad.
:-( It really is a marathon. thanks for being here through it. And Yes, Mcgddss you said it ! I just want to parent my kid. I had 3 grown kids when I married UBPDX. I saw the woman d11 is called to be in her eyes recently. And that woman will probably not put up with him. She will get validated where I didnt. She will manuver her r/s with BPDDAD differently than I . :-) |