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Title: Recycle while in a relationship? Post by: Xeonrebel on October 12, 2019, 06:03:25 PM Does anybody have an experience of being recycled (or tried to recycle) while being on a new relationship with a non? either GF or BF.
if so, whats your experience? did they (exbpd) try to break up your new relationship? did the exbpd rage? or just vanished again? Title: Re: Recycle while in a relationship? Post by: Woolspinner2000 on October 13, 2019, 09:17:42 PM Hi Xeonrebel :hi:
I don't have experience with this, but I wondered if you are currently in this stage and trying to understand it? What are the things you are noticing right now? It is not uncommon that a pwBPD traits will feel rejected and try to lash out in order to 'self sooth' or make themselves feel better. Any of us who have had a BPD in our lives can certainly relate to that! Wools Title: Re: Recycle while in a relationship? Post by: insideoutside on October 30, 2019, 08:20:37 AM I am married but it did not stop my friend (who I suspect is BPD/NPD) to try to elicit an affair and was really inappropriate at times with how he spoke and pictures he sent. I am sure if I had been single and 100% available he would had run a mile. We had a relationship 30 years ago and I was never enough for him and kept catching him with other girls. Yet when I played him at his own game back then I was subjected to a torrent of abuse.
So the more unavailable you are the greater the chase and thrill for them. Title: Re: Recycle while in a relationship? Post by: 40days_in_desert on October 30, 2019, 12:47:44 PM I agree with the posts so far. With my ex most of the attempts by her to engage in conversations of reconnecting either came when I was dating another woman. Even though I hadn't dated anyone longer than 3-4 weeks until I met my current girlfriend. After a couple of months dating my current girlfriend about a year ago, my ex made it known that she wanted to reconnect emotionally/romantically. She would also do this at times it was clear to her that I had disengaged and when things were going badly with her boyfriend. I don't think she would have gone through with reconciling. I think it was her way of keeping me tethered just enough just in case she wanted/needed me for her needs.
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